So imagine my shock when I come to learn that in Panama you CAN’T even raise your voice a smidgen. If you do, it’s considered A SIN!!!
I’m a very passionate person, so when I’m excited or angry, my voice goes up. Doesn’t mean I’m yelling, because trust me, you DON’T want to hear me when I yell LOL
Here’s 2 examples of what happened to me that blew me away, confused me & made me think “these people are NUTS!!!”
- The first time it happened I was speaking to a lawyer on the phone who had already given me the inclination that he changes his tune at the drop of a hat.First he told me I had a good case, then he tells me I don’t have a good case (this went on a few times until I was ready to scream. He tried to blame me for his mistake (remember this is very common here, they don’t take responsibility for their actions, so they blame everyone else for their mistakes.)
I was sooo stressed & upset, my voice went up & that’s when he says, “DON’T talk to me like that, you aren’t my MOTHER!”
I’m like WHAT???? LOL, who said I was your mother?
I’m usually not at a loss for words, but this came OUT OF THE BLUE & wasn’t relevant at all to anything that had been said.
Later on I figured out that his mother probably raises her voice at him.
Wow, so if I raise my voice, now I’m that person’s mother.
MAKES SENSE TO ME…. NOT!
- A couple of days later when my landlady is trying to kick me out of the house onto the streets 4 days before New Year’s Eve, as I’m sitting with her & trying to make her see/hear reason (Ummm, I learned that’s next to near impossible to do with a Panamanian, & this woman is an intern studying to be an eye surgeon, so it doesn’t seem to matter if they are educated or not, they are supposedly all like this.), I become frustrated with her, so of course since I’m not a robot & proud of it, my voice goes up slightly. Not as much as it had with the lawyer.The next thing I know, she’s tell me, “DON’T disrespect ME!!!”
I’m thinking to myself… Lady, I stopped respecting you back when it became obvious you didn’t want to help change anything that was wrong with your house, you expected ME to pay for everything, you wouldn’t even change the date on the lease to when I moved in NOT when I got the key, so you pretty much don’t give a SHIT, you just want money & to gouge me.
I also lost respect for you when you started threatening me.
Me raising my voice means nothing, the respect went out the window LONG before that!
Of course my only defense was to say, “I’m NOT disrespecting you.” I felt like a child when I said that.
I found out later on via Marie, that they are emotionless. They don’t run hot or cold, there’s no emotion at all. CREEPY!
I found this odd since I thought Latinos were hot blooded, but I can say based on my experience, they aren’t in Panama.
Another thing that makes no sense is they DON’T like it when you raise your voice or yell, BUT they have no problem with DEAFENING loud music & dogs barking day in & day out so you are deaf.
Logic means nothing in Panama.